Featured Writings

Transforming Shame

Shame is often so overwhelming that it can be hard to imagine breaking it down into components to change it. This article will take you through the formation and experience of shame and help you, the reader, work step-by-step to transform the pain of shame into the comfort of connection.

Conflict-Resolution and Resilience: “Can we try that again?”

When couples embark on therapy it is often to change patters of conflict that are wound so tightly responses can feel like ‘autopilot’. Yet, courageously they commit to the idea that there is another way to go about conflict: one that is more healthy and productive for everyone involved. Often times this process can become stuck, even when couples have created or acquired excellent new ways to engaged in difficult conversations. New options may linger during pivotal moments, but familiar ways sink in and the same pattern unfolds. There is a powerful tool that fits well during this time, when new options emerge but are difficult to apply.

Boundaries And Self-Esteem: How Caregivers Can Encourage Life-Long Empowerment For Their Children

Encouraging infants and children to create their own boundaries for touch facilitates healthy development and relational success throughout life. And as a bonus, it comes with the relief that talks about consent by parents and caregivers do not have to wait until it has to do with sexual intimacy.  Caregivers can and should facilitate everyday, age appropriate, and applicable conversations that encourage safety and self-esteem throughout life. These conversations prepare children for making some more challenging decision about touch later in life.